Read this article on the Straits Times today.
THE Social Development Unit (SDU) has shed its stigma, becoming a more popular choice for those seeking marriage.
The matchmaking service for university graduates married off 4,050 of its 26,000 members last year, a 45 per cent jump from 1999's 2,789, despite fewer marriages at a national level.
SDU says it averaged about 1,000 members getting married annually in the first 10 years after its founding in 1984. In the next 10 years, that number rose to about 2,400 members getting hitched every year.
Some 34,000 members have found mates since its inception, with last year's being the bumper crop.
Not only is it finding more success in making matches, its activities have also become more popular, especially with new events like speed dating.
In the last five years, there has been a consistent 20 per cent increase in the number of new members who participate in events, compared with before.
On average, about 2,000 members out of a base of about 9,000 new members sign up for activities each year, compared to about 1,000 out of a similar base in the past.
People are more open-minded now about the SDU than they were 15 years ago, said the unit's director, Mrs Tan-Huang Shuo Mei.
Another change over the years has been that men, who traditionally prefer to marry down, are now more willing to marry women who are their academic and career equals, according to Mrs Tan-Huang.
'The new expectations gap that has surfaced over the years is no longer the issue of educational qualifications,' she said.
Rather, it is that men still expect their wives to fulfil the traditional roles of a wife and mother, even if they have careers, whereas women expect men to share domestic duties.
Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong noted in his first National Day Rally speech on Sunday that the nation's singles can afford to be more realistic and accommodating in their expectations.
Many are still finicky.
One man refused to meet a woman just one centimetre short of 160cm, the ideal height he had specified, even though she met all his other criteria.
Another woman refused to go out a second time with a man who did not dish food onto her plate during their first - and only - dinner date.
Yet another average-looking professional man in his 40s presented a long list of requirements that included 'young, cute, feminine and fair'.
So far, the SDU has yet to find him someone who matches up.
An attractive woman in her 20s who signed up for SDU's computer matchmaking service repeatedly palmed off her spurned suitors to her friends, some of whom married the 'rejects'.
Now in her 30s and still single, she finally admitted to an SDU adviser that with hindsight, 'the guys whom she felt were not good enough for her actually made very good husbands and fathers'.
Mrs Tan-Huang says it is especially worrying when the objections are as superficial as women baulking at men who slurp their soup, or men who insist on 'sweet young things'.
Referring to similar SDU anecdotes that included a man who rejected a women because of her short-sightedness, the Prime Minister had said such singles needed to 'be realistic and accommodating'.
Thankfully, most people can be counselled to adjust their expectations, Mrs Tan-Huang said, taking heart that at least nowadays, people are more forthcoming.
A private matchmaker, Madam Chin Lai Yin, 54, who founded Love Match Consultancy 31 years ago, hopes to boost her current 5,000 membership because 'the Government is encouraging young people to use such services'.
More than physical attributes, she says her clients worry that they cannot afford a home or support children. Fear of divorce also keeps some from getting married.
She points out that she can only advise them: 'You must have courage and look at things optimistically. Only then will you get what you wish for.'
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I shall comment more tonight. I cant be bothered to now.